The rejection you are facing is God’s protection and part of His divine sovereignty to keep you in His perfect will.
We crossed paths in my call of duty. I had gone to the hotel market in China to buy some things I required for the housing project I had. Coincidentally, we were both in the same line of work; interior design. This was a bonus point to why we were meant to be together, so I thought. We were good together. I loved his sense of humor and just how when we were together we never ran out of words to say to each other. When we were apart from each other, we always found a way to be part of each other’s day. As I weighed the pros and cons
1 Kings 11:2 from the nations concerning which the Lord had said to the people of Israel, “You shall not enter into marriage with them, neither shall they with you, for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods.” Solomon clung to these in love.
The danger of Compromising God’s standards
Although I was determined in seeking God, I naively thought we could work through it. The scripture warns us of being unequally yoked to unbelievers (14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. 2corinthians 6:14), but I thought I could influence him and make him decide to be a believer. The end result was he ended up drawing me away from God.
God has the best for us, what God has for us is not meant to draw us away from God but rather to bring us close to God.
The outcome of Solomon going against God’s commands brought about his downfall. His heart was turned away from God by his wives as explained in 1kings 11. This was what I was experiencing. I started skipping church to hang out with my Ex-boyfriend. I found myself compromising on things I had made up my mind not to do. In my spirit, I was being convicted that He wasn’t God’s plan for me and I was to end the relationship but I chose to ignore as I really wanted the wait for a husband to be over.
It was the Chinese holidays and I had decided that I wasn’t going to travel back home as I had just got to China a few months back. In my mind, I thought it would be a perfect time for my Ex.boyfriend and me to spend time together and get to know each other more. Shockingly, when we met, he had other plans as he had planned to go back home for the holidays. I was disappointed but with some consolations, we left off on a good note as he promised to stay in touch.
We were in communication for a week or 2 after he had settled back home. Then we lost touch. After a while, I decided to break the silence. In consideration of the time difference between his country and China time, I excitedly called him one early morning. When he answered, I sensed disinterest in his tone of voice as he rushed over the call. He asked to call me the next day, which he never did. That was the last I heard from him.
I became disillusioned, frustrated and broken. The pain was unbearable. I needed something or someone to take it away. In the depth of sorrow, I surrendered all my brokenness,
I recommitted my life to Christ and diligently sought Him which led me to a process of being made whole. God opened the eyes of my heart (Ephesians 1:18) and I came to an understanding that the rejection I faced, was the protection of God and part of His divine sovereignty to keep me in His perfect will. God’s protection prevented me from being tied to a partner, a marriage that lacked purpose. God’s choice for me of a partner carried purpose. At that moment I started seeing what I had been through as a blessing and not as a punishment. I started thanking God for the invisible miracle of keeping my Ex-boyfriend from calling or texting me for he wasn’t God’s plan for my life. I thanked God for having my back and for saying No to my prayers to be with my Ex. I praised him then and I praise Him now for what he did for me.
I’m forever grateful for God’s undying love for me.